To get what we really want, it is necessary to be aware of our choices and act with intention instead of letting ourselves be dictated by unconscious motives. For example, think about a major life choice you’ve recently made. Was it done on purpose or impulsively? Did it turn out as you expected? If not, what could you have changed in your choice next time? Are you willing to examine your options before acting?

Can we plan too much?

We make countless choices every day, but are we making them based on a deeper intention or are they knee-jerk reactions? This is an important part of making better life decisions: delay gratification and choose what is likely to benefit us in the future.

We don’t need to plan our life to get what we really want because planning doesn’t always work due to unforeseen circumstances. Unexpected conditions may arise, given choices made in the past, resulting from karma or unexplained circumstances. The key is not to look at our plans for the future but to know the direction we want our lives to follow. Based on my experience coaching clients over the years, as well as my own observations, life rarely goes according to plan. In fact, looking back on my life, many of my plans didn’t turn out the way I expected. I have no problem with that because my life has turned out better than I could have imagined.

Therefore, we should go with the flow rather than fixate on a plan for our lives. This means adapting to what is happening and developing mental and emotional resilience to what is presented. I admit that this requires a lot of practice where we are no longer dictated by external events. But what’s the rush, if we repeatedly make less than desirable decisions?

This way of thinking can help us to be more calm when faced with events beyond our control. Similarly, we don’t have to like what is happening, but we can learn to accept that there may be a greater lesson contained in the experience. We learn to accept that there might be a greater plan unfolding in the context of our lives, as the pieces of the puzzle are still being formed. Are you comfortable with this idea so far? Looking back on your life, can you see what unexpected event turned out to be beneficial to you?

When life lacks spontaneity

Planning out the details of our lives removes the spontaneity of life because we expect our life’s trajectory to follow the past. But what if we had a difficult past filled with pain and regret? We might expect the future to be the same, but this is not always the case. I have trained remarkable people over the years who have overcome great odds and transformed their lives beyond their wildest dreams. They were willing to heal their past and step into a new future without bringing their pain with them. You may do the same. It requires the willingness to let go of what isn’t working and move forward with bold intention.

Sometimes the best things that happen happen when we are not prepared. This is because uncertainty is the foundation for a life of adventure and personal growth. After all, we can only plan life so far and trust that it will unfold accordingly. But sometimes it can take an unexpected turn, which can be the best thing that can happen to us. What I’m saying: We don’t know what awaits us on the other side until we take a leap of faith and move forward with boldness and courage.

Likewise, good things can happen to us, we never expect them. I have written in previous articles and books about my life-changing transformation early in my life. After graduating from college with a degree in Fashion Design, I pursued a completely different career writing and speaking about personal empowerment. I felt a powerful call from my soul, which spanned several years. At first I resisted due to family pressure, who thought I was crazy for giving up a successful career. Although I didn’t understand what I was getting myself into, I was confident that what I was leaving behind was less important than what I was entering. The power of being guided by my heart’s deepest desire overcame a run I was simply satisfied with.

Trust in unexpected miracles

Think about this in your own life. Have you experienced a chance meeting with a person who became your partner? Perhaps it was a business associate or an important personal or professional relationship? In retrospect, could you have foreseen that such an event would occur?

Therefore, we must leave room for miracles and surprises, because this is how life will reveal itself in ways we never expected.. I didn’t expect to be speaking on stage in front of hundreds of people, given my skills and experience in clothing design. But I took a chance and believed in life, even though I couldn’t see evidence of it. I took a risk and trusted that life would not let me down. Now I invite you to trust unexpected miracles in your life. We must allow life to unfold through us, being receptive to new experiences rather than talking ourselves out of it.

Knowing this, I invite you to write a list of three areas in which you are constantly planning things. Is it in your career, finances, health or relationships? Are you willing to be more open to new experiences in these areas? Could you leave room for unexpected blessings, even if it’s 5%? Do you need to think differently? Maybe it involves less planning and more trust. You may have to experiment to find what works for you.

I assure you that making the smallest change, whether it is a change in your thinking or in your actions, can greatly improve your life. Consider how you feel about making these changes. It may seem scary at first, but if you keep a journal, write about your experiences, so you can look back and see how far you’ve come. After all, we don’t need to plan our lives in every detail to get what we really want because getting what we want comes from choices we never knew we had to make until the time came.