It has amazed me how negative, whiny, whiny women get men and seemingly ruin them for positive women in the future. Men don’t set out to date negative women, but many women (and men) date to “complete” themselves through another person. Instead, they need to realize that they are already whole and that happiness is an inside job. Positive women know it. Do negative, cheating men make it difficult for positive women to trust men? Absolutely, so we’re in the same boat, but positive women have a paddle because they use their instincts and personal boundaries to their advantage. Here are some examples of what I’ve seen women do that makes men cynical or shy when it comes time to date a positive woman.

Related – Negative women lie about who they are, what they like to do, and what they look for in a man just to get someone to date them.

I met a woman who hated Chinese food and when a man asked her if she liked Chinese food, she said, “Do you like Chinese food?” When he said that she loved it, she said that she loved it too. Did she ever think that he might get upset when she finds out that her first conversation was based on a lie or expect him to fall for her based on her other lies and ignore her first one? Caramba!

Came – Negative women complain to their man about things that would be better solved with friends who have the same style of communication and understanding.

When a woman comes home and complains about a catty woman at work, a man wants to “fix” it. When he can’t, he gets frustrated and feels like he can’t please her. If you are a crybaby woman, get rid of your negative and crybaby friends. If you are a positive woman, connect with a community of positive women who will show you that the bitchy woman at work is insecure and try to get a dose of power by teasing you. Positive women know these things and it doesn’t bother them.

Hope it’s a girl. – Negative women expect a man to think like them and handle things the same way they do.

Negative women complain A LOT! The problems are inside, but they take the low path of guilt to avoid taking responsibility. No man likes to be bothered, so he leaves (if he has healthy self-esteem and personal boundaries) or stops listening altogether. Positive women focus their time with their man on nurturing and complimenting rather than whining and complaining because they want to support him in being the best man he can be.

Make sure you’re mentally, emotionally, and spiritually healthy before dating and when you don’t feel like you “need” to date to validate your existence, THAT’S when you go out. If men did this, it would eliminate the problem of negative, whiny, whiny women ruining the dating pool for positive women!