An often misunderstood part of the male chastity game is “male punishment” – in essence, what the woman does if the man doesn’t do as she’s told.

But what is “male punishment” and is it really real?

First, let me say that there is a fundamental presupposition, even in asking the question, that may not even be valid, since in order to assume that “punishment” is possible, you must first assume that the woman is even in a position to “punish” her husband.

And, as the saying goes, “it’s not necessarily so“.

I say this because couples living the male chastity lifestyle are not necessarily in Dominant/Submissive (D&S) relationships.

Many couples, like my husband and I, and indeed like many men and women who write to me, also practice what might be called “vanilla male chastity,” where orgasm denial, teasing, and all that goes with it. they are correctly seen as nothing more serious than a sexy game that goes on for days, weeks, months, and sometimes even years.

But aside from that, let’s suppose for a moment that you are in a D&S relationship that incorporates male chastity and your man somehow breaks a “rule” and deserves a “male punishment”.

What is your job?

Well, what you don’t do is what men write on forums and blogs all the time: you don’t give them more than they enjoy or want. If you do that, how is the punishment?

In my view, punishment is something that whose want, by definition. I mean, you don’t “punish” a wayward kid by buying him a new suit or taking him to a special present, do you?

No, maybe you ground her for a week, confiscate her computer and phone, and have her come home from school and instead of watching TV do all those horrible homework you’ve been putting off for months. I know from experience that it’s a real punishment and she really doesn’t like it – which is the whole point!

Too many men see “male punishment” as the fulfillment of their hottest fantasies (if you don’t believe me, check out all the forums and you’ll see I’m right).

So what is it Real Male punishment?

First, let me say that I never intentionally punish my husband, because it’s not that kind of relationship. Some people have written to me saying that I should deny his orgasm longer, tease him more, or even cheat on him…but seeing as he enjoys all of this (or would do enjoy the last one if I ever would, which I won’t), none of them would be a punishment.

Having said that, I have found, quite by accident, that a ruined orgasm it is a good way to teach a man a lesson in male chastity.

What is a ruined orgasm?

A ruined orgasm is when you take your man right to that point of no return and then when he starts coming and he can’t help it… you stop doing whatever you’re doing to stimulate him and let his orgasm wear off without further stimulation. . .

To us girls, that doesn’t sound like much, but believe me, your man will really, truly, honestly hate you. There are two reasons for this:

1. it is physically incredibly frustrating. He’s almost have a proper orgasm… but not quite. And the longer she has been waiting, the worse it will be. You’d think you’d get some “relief” from that…but believe me, you won’t.
2. It is emotionally frustrating, too. A man’s orgasm is all-consuming and often the entire focus of his sexuality. When he has been in orgasm denial for a long time, it is Really wishing for a wonderful and amazing orgasm. And you just blew it.

In conclusion

If you want to live the lifestyle of male chastity and believe that some type of male punishment is both necessary and desirable, then there is no point in giving him something he wants, like a longer denial or even a good spanking. In my experience, a ruined orgasm is a perfect “male punishment” for your man, simply because he will hate it (and not in a “I’m lovin ‘it“something like that…).

So if you are Sick and tired Of all the hype and nonsense you read about lifestyle, and you would like to experience real male punishment and strict male chastity then…