Men are often like a labyrinth to us. One day we feel that we are completely on the right track because our boy seems happy and fulfilled. The next day comes and it seems as if we’ve been lost in the dark as he backs off or becomes distant and critical. It’s hard to know how to react when your man’s mood changes and he doesn’t share how he feels with you. Contrary to popular opinion, many men feel things very deeply. Men can also be incredibly fickle when it comes to love and romance. If your guy shuts down and doesn’t share what’s going on in his heart and head, you don’t have to keep feeling frustrated and lost. Women actually have an innate ability to get their man to express how he feels. You just need to know what to do to make the man you love feel so close to you that sharing with you becomes normal, natural and extraordinarily comfortable.

Show him that you are fully and completely accepting him.

One of the main reasons many men don’t share their feelings unconditionally with their partner is that they fear they won’t be accepted. If you are the type of woman who is painfully honest, that can work against you when it comes to building a strong communication connection with your man. Obviously, it is very important to always be as honest as possible within your relationship, but if your man feels that she is going to criticize him, he will back off and shut you out.

You can build a strong foundation of acceptance by showing him that you love him just the way he is. Do not try to change the man that he is and do not make disparaging comments about him or the decisions he has made in his life.

One area that can have a big impact on your own connection with your current love is if you’ve become someone who constantly reminds them how dumb it was to get involved with their ex-girlfriend. Many men have regrets when it comes to past loves and if you mock or point fingers at how reckless his one-sided decisions in love were, you are going to alienate him. You have to be willing to accept it as it is, past the warts and all. Once your man feels that he loves you, despite all the baggage he brings to your relationship, he will feel closer to you and he will be more likely to share your current feelings.

Create a comforting environment for him to share

If your world is always full of drama, you will find that your man is not that interested in sharing the intimate details of how he feels. The reason is very simple. If he senses that you’re turning everything into a theatrical circus, he’s not going to want to get in the middle of it. If a man thinks his woman will overreact or emotionally, he will keep everything to himself. He doesn’t want to tell you that he’s not ready for a commitment or that he wants a break if he feels like you’re going to fall apart. You have to show him that you are emotionally mature enough to handle whatever comes your way.

To accomplish this, it’s important to be prepared for any curveballs that might be thrown your way. Always expect the unexpected from him. If he shares some feelings that are difficult for you to absorb, tell him calmly. Simply tell him that you appreciate his honesty but that you need some time to process what he just shared with you. If you can do this, he’ll be more inclined to share whatever he’s feeling because he’ll know you can handle it in a mature and rational way.

Don’t be too eager to always share your innermost feelings

One of the biggest hurdles many couples have to overcome is that one person is too quick, too eager, or too assertive when it comes to sharing how they feel. Generally, women assume this role. We feel so much for the man we are involved with that we allow the emotional floodgates to open and we begin to recite everything we feel.

If your man is not ready to share his feelings with you, he will feel cornered or pressured. If we’re honest, we can agree that we have a certain level of expectation that comes with sharing our hearts with a man. At the very least, we expect him to reciprocate those sentiments. If he doesn’t, we feel embarrassed, he feels uncomfortable, and the whole dynamic of the relationship changes.

A good rule of thumb is to let him set the pace for the exchange of feelings. You may be worried that this will result in confusion and a series of misunderstandings about what the relationship really is and where it is headed. When a man falls in love, he wants to share that with the woman of his desire. He wants to do that on his own schedule. He doesn’t want to feel pressured to say it before he feels completely ready. That’s why you need to accept the relationship for what it is, embrace the experiences you’re having, and show him that you’re the kind of woman who will give him the emotional space he needs to sort out his feelings. If you can master that, you’ll be well on your way to a deep connection with a man who feels like you understand him. He will see you as someone who is ready, willing and happy to wait for him to share his feelings when he feels ready.