You woo her, you woo her, you marry her, and then you start plotting how to get rid of her. Does this sound like the plot of a movie? It’s a normal life sheet of Joe. Marriage does this to people. You start taking each other for granted, you stop working to make the other person happy, you start focusing exclusively on yourself, and suddenly you find that there is no relationship there anymore.

When you’re on the brink of breakup/divorce you realize you had something good and you don’t want to lose it. Better late than never. Now that he wants to prevent his wife from leaving, it’s time for him to take serious action:

1. Ask her to talk to you – women love to talk. They love to download the feelings they keep in their hearts. Invite her to tell you what went wrong from her point of view. Ask her to share with you where and how she felt hurt by her behavior, mistakes, attitudes, words.

2. Listen – when she talks – and that would not end at once – listen carefully to what he says. Be careful what she says about hurt feelings, crushed expectations, broken promises, uncaring behavior, etc. This is not the time to launch into a defensive joke; just listen and make mental notes of those highlights where he can make amends so he can win back your heart.

3. revive making love – Sex is not the same as making love. When men have sex, women feel used and dirty; when men make love, women feel loved and wanted. The difference lies in the initiation. Making love begins hours before the actual act. It starts playing, flirting, teasing and ends in the bedroom. Learn the difference; make love to your wife.

4. To be there – Women love to have their men around them completely for them. Take some time to spend exclusively with his wife. Take her on a ‘date’; going out for a weekend retreat; or just watch TV together (something you BOTH like, not something like a boxing championship).

5. say you love her – Sounds pretty simple, right? How many times have you said this to your wife in the last week? Month? Year? Say it today; say it as often as you can; say it with all your heart.

6. change for her – make amends She begins to introduce a behavior change that tells her how much you love her. Let her know that these changes are for her.

7. work on it – Cultivating a relationship is hard work. You have to maintain it 24×7. Romance her, woo her, cherish her – and she’ll never leave you again.