The costliest mistake in swinger dating

As any good salesperson will tell you, ‘closing the sale’ It is a process that must be in place all the time, from the moment a meeting with a client begins until the sale is agreed.

This idea should apply to everyone catch up situations and even swinger dates. It is particularly essential for a single man trying to climb the first rung of the swinger lifestyle ladder. Singles and many newcomer swinger couples often manage to do all the right things when chatting with other swingers, and then screw it all up by neglecting closure.

In these situations, the other person (or partner) is ready to get physical, the sexual chemistry is there, and the date or meeting couldn’t go any better. In fact, things have gone so well that time has passed like lightning and no one has been able to do anything sexual before they say goodbye to someone suggesting another meeting at some point. Everyone goes home thinking about the good boy or partner they met and how nice the date had been; until some time later they begin to wonder why nothing happened. This type of situation is by no means uncommon and if you are a single man or a newbie couple, hoping to enjoy regular adult fun and a swinger lifestyle, you need to make sure you don’t let it happen to you. Here’s what you can do about it.

Three ways to close the swinger chat

There are three obvious options to shut down and move on to recreational sex:

1. Simply propose an immediate start of sex here and now.

2. Propose to meet in another place at another time to have sex.

3. Make a date to go to a swingers club or private sex party together.

Which of these closings will be in part dictated by the circumstances of the meeting. EXAMPLE OF AN ENEMY, THE have sex here and now obviously, the option will not be available in most public gathering places. On the other hand, for a meeting that takes place at a sex party, closing in this direct way is usually the best option.

Sex party closing chat

Although you might think that it is much easier to avoid forgetting to close mistake when swingers chatting at a sex party, it still happens frequently. Over the many years of attending swingers parties, I’ve witnessed countless examples of people missing golden opportunities to enjoy threesomes and foursomes simply because they couldn’t close the conversation.

Let me describe a very typical example of this situation. Two couples engage in a very flirtatious conversation. Both females are dressed (or naked) to get excited. Both partners (both male and female) make it absolutely clear that they are genuinely excited to enjoy their first group sexual experience. They are eager to do a full exchange and the sexual chemistry seems correct from all four perspectives. The simple thing would be to close the conversation with a simple proposal like, “Are we ready to test the arcade then?” But instead of this happening, the four of them are drawn into extending the conversation until it begins to die and degenerate into something that is no longer exciting or flirtatious. At this point, someone makes up an excuse to keep going and the possibility of swinging is gone forever.

Most couples who attend swinger parties are only interested in exchanging sex. This fact makes it very likely that a single man who cannot close the conversation with a partner who enjoys MFM threesomes, it could easily mean missing the only opportunity offered by the party. With this being the case, the guy has not only squandered his chances of swinging with the partner he’s been chatting with, but he’s effectively ruined the whole party and might as well go home!

The main reason so many people are bad closers is fear of rejection. It is best overcome by adopting the feel the fear and do it anyway Getting closer. In other words, the more times you nullify your anxiety by doing (saying) what needs to be done, the easier it will be for you. Put this into practice and the fear of rejection, which is a perfectly natural human feeling, will eventually be mastered and your ability to close will become an automatic and natural way for you to move on to the physical stage of swingers dating.