Ever since men discovered that “women are from Venus”, many men have been training to become attractive to women through conversation: pick up lines, conversation topics, conversation topics, etc. You know all those things.

Those deep conversations are great and all, but let’s be honest, doesn’t it get a little frustrating sometimes? She wants to go out with you, she thinks you’re a great friend, and the two of you have deep conversations, but what if you want more? What if you want to date her?

How do you go from being just an ear and shoulder to someone he’s dating or even a lover?

1. Stop trying to be a “best friend” and lover all the time. We all want to fall in love with our best friend because he is very romantic. It’s like in the movies. Unfortunately, you can only be his best friend who wants to be his lover or his lover who wants to be his best friend. I advise you to choose “her lover who wants to be her best friend”. Make it clear to her that you are interested in her as a “woman” and not “just a friend.”

2. Take Some Risks: Pretending all you care about is deep conversation when that’s not true is cowardly. And don’t think for a moment that women are stupid to think that men love deep conversations. A woman will stick around long enough to see if you’re man enough to take some risks and when you don’t, whoosh, you’re filed under “friend category.” Stop being too secretive or cautious and take a chance.

3. Take on the role of leader – deep talks and all that means she’s the one in the driver’s seat and driving the relationship and as long as you let her, nothing will change. Women are more attracted to a man who takes charge and leads the relationship than the other way around.

4. Set limits and have enough self-respect: The fear of disappointing or upsetting her in any way if you set limits only makes you lose respect in front of women. Women are generally not impressed by men who constantly seek their approval and act desperate and needy. Keep that reminder that you’re there and you’re friendly, but you’re also an individual with a life to live (I’m assuming you have one).

5. Openly flirt with her: compliment her, hold eye contact longer and longer than usual, laugh more, smile more, do whatever flirting means to you. Just don’t overdo it and discourage her, less is more!

6. Touch: I don’t know if I can ever say this enough; touch, touch, touch. Please touch. Touching someone is a very omen. Find small ways to touch her: invite her to wrestle her thumbs, ask her to read your palm, playfully pat her shoulder, brush an imaginary crumb from her lips, and then say “just kidding,” massage her fingers. feet etc Those little touches can be a very strong bond between the two of you.

7. Get up, keep trying: Sometimes things just aren’t meant to be. It is a fact of life that not everyone you are sexually attracted to will be sexually attracted to you. Don’t dwell on failures, pat yourself on the back for taking a risk and try again. Tomorrow is another day.

Now start transitioning from “that guy I’m dating” to “lover” 🙂