You know you are empathetic if you find yourself picking up on other people’s problems. When they are sad, you are sad, when they are happy, you are happy, when they are suffering, so are you. Separating your problems from theirs can be very confusing and makes living life as an empath quite challenging. I would like to offer a very effective technique that I intuitively discovered many years ago to block out all those invading energies. Although I am an empath, I have developed the ability to choose to experience the energies of others or not.

Empaths naturally fluctuate their energetic vibrations to match other people’s. When someone is sad, angry, hurt, or happy, you combine your energy with theirs to feel what they are feeling. Very often, this is done in an attempt to ease that person’s pain; to carry their burden for them. Sometimes it arises from the belief that to understand a person’s pain, you must experience it. However, whatever the reason, a very important lesson for all empaths to learn is that it is not necessary to feel or experience someone else’s pain in order to alleviate it.

How can you stop matching the energies of those around you? Using the drag principle. Training is defined as the tendency of two vibrating bodies to phase and vibrate in harmony; also, as the synchronization of two or more rhythmic cycles. This principle is universal and can be seen in many everyday situations. For example, two beating heart muscle cells will synchronize with time. The pendulums of grandfather clocks lined up against a wall will begin to swing together. Women who live together for more than a month will have their menstrual cycles at the same time. A guitar string tuned to a particular note, when struck, will cause another guitar string, tuned to the same note but held at a distance, to vibrate.

We can also see examples of this in emotions. Have you ever been with someone who was in a great mood and felt good too? Or how about the opposite, when you were with someone who was really sad or angry and you started to feel the same way. We tend to refer to this as “infectious”.

Well, you can use this same “contagious” energy to keep you from dealing with other people’s problems. If you keep your energies higher than those of the people around you, you will find that you are not bending over to pick up sadness, anger, pain, frustration, etc. In fact, you will notice that if you spend enough time with these people, they will start to equalize your energy and feel better! So how can you keep your energies high? Doing everything possible to stay in a good mood, optimistic and happy when someone with less energy is around. Think of someone or something you love, count your blessings, imagine you have a kitten, puppy, or baby in your arms, or just realize that the best thing you can do for that person is to keep your energies high instead of lowering them. at their level. . Misery may like company, but it is not very useful to have a room full of miserable people. Be the beacon, the bright light during the storm, and help lift that person’s spirits. You will both feel much, much better and begin to learn that meeting someone at the level of their pain is not the best way to help them get through it.