You really can’t make a mistake when you get a massage. However, there are some things that most novices do that can make relaxation difficult and create difficulties for the therapist. Knowing these things in advance will help you avoid them and have a better experience.

Getting Frustrated: Getting a massage is a skill like any other. It takes time to allow yourself to fall into a comfortable rhythm with your therapist and to focus on the massage. It’s easy to get frustrated with yourself for not being able to pay attention and just relax. After you have received your first massage, you will know what to expect. There are no “massage police” and no one will know if your mind wanders a few times or if you fall asleep (unless you snore of course!). Try to focus on your breathing and feeling the sensation of the therapist’s hands.

Assist: When the therapist lifts or moves your head, arms, or legs, you do not need to assist unless asked. Pretend you are a limp noodle and just let him or her move you. Tensing or trying to help and anticipate what they want will negate the therapeutic effects of range of motion, stretching, or positioning of the muscles. Helping out can even make the therapist work harder.

Not communicating: It is very important that your therapist knows what your goals are for the session and if the pressure is comfortable. Many people complain that the massage was not deep enough or that it was too deep and painful. When asked if they said anything, the answer is almost always no. Take responsibility for your experience so you can get the most out of it. And by all means please speak up if the room is too cold!

Tough Guy/Girl: A lot of people think that in order to get an hour of “me time,” there has to be something awkward, tedious, or downright painful to justify it. If you don’t enjoy or need deep pressure, don’t say, “You can go deeper if you want.” We just want to go deeper if YOU want to. Up to you. Don’t ever feel like we’re holding you to a standard and if the pressure isn’t as deep as it was for the last guy, we’re going to ridicule you. Many of our clients want a light but firm massage, and there’s nothing wrong with that! Ask for what YOU want, not what you think you should want.

Cancellation: As the first massage appointment on the calendar approaches, many new clients become nervous or suddenly feel guilty about spending time or money on themselves. Being on a massage table and trusting someone with your physical self is a bit stressful the first time. This is normal. Being nervous is normal. Therapists are used to it, and sometimes sharing your feelings with them helps. A variation on this theme is to make an appointment only if they can drive you the same day. A talented therapist may already have a steady client base, and he or she may not be able to accommodate the last-minute request. Please do not decide not to have a massage if you cannot do so right away.

One = All Syndrome: Every massage therapist is completely different. Personality, training, talent, compassion, listening skills and many other aspects are part of the experience you create for your customers. Keep in mind that your own state of being will also affect the massage. If you have a bad experience, keep in mind that each massage from each therapist will be different. If you have a great experience, and you likely will, reward that therapist by rebooking (making another appointment) and telling your friends and coworkers. Referrals are the lifeblood of our business.

Holding unrealistic expectations: Massage should be part of your wellness plan, however it should not be taken in lieu of medical advice. Multiple sessions are usually needed to get maximum relief, depending on your injury or pain, and sometimes maintenance treatments will be needed as well. In addition, you will need to complete (actually do) any tasks the therapist gives you, such as stretching, drinking more water, and treating yourself.