Scientists have suggested various anatomies that could be involved in the female orgasm. No research was necessary to establish the male sexual organ. Men know (and their lovers know) what anatomy is involved in the male orgasm. Scientists proposed theories about female sexual anatomy because women themselves (and their lovers) didn’t know. Despite the variety of theories, none of them has been unanimously confirmed by women.

Young women assume that sex must be incredibly pleasurable because their families and society try to protect them from it. They can hear about sexual pleasure through erotic fiction. Naturally, they ignore the possibility that fiction is not the same as reality. They may also not appreciate the importance of the fact that both pornography and prostitution are primarily enjoyed by men. This ignorance is further compounded because no one is willing to assert the fact that sex is primarily a male pleasure.

Just as young people continue to smoke (despite knowing that it kills), women are tempted to try sex (with all its risks) because of the association with adulthood. They also assume that there must be some pleasure involved. Otherwise, why would adults do it? In truth, adults, just like teenagers, do a lot of stupid things. They do them to be accepted by their social group. They do them because they think they will be admired by others. They do them because they think they are supposed to do these things.

Women all over the world make money promoting sex, whether through the sex industry or through sex therapy. There is nothing wrong with women promoting sex as a wonderful experience. What’s wrong is when they use the word ‘orgasm’ to describe those experiences. They refer to emotional and sensual sensations at best. This should be clear. Anyone who has an orgasm can explain the anatomy and erotic thrills involved.

Young women are naturally impressed by the confidence of men. They are full of romantic illusions and curiosity about the inexperience and optimism of youth. Young women are looking for a supportive partner. They enjoy the novelty of their popularity with men. Older women appreciate that men promote their own sexual interests. The young women ignore the advice of the older women, assuming that their popularity with men suffers. Parents try to protect their daughters from irresponsible youth.

A man can accept that his mother is not turned on by porn. But a man differentiates between women he considers sexual (young, attractive, and easy to impress) and older women. Men define women’s sexuality in terms of their willingness to foster male arousal and their willingness to have sex. As they age, women are less motivated to behave in ways that are supposed to indicate a woman’s sexual docility.

Women are more confident in admitting that intercourse does not lead to orgasm as they age, as they gain status or wealth, and through education. Women who are intellectually confident, emotionally self-sufficient, and financially independent tend to be less sexually willing.

If women had a positive sexual experience, then older women would be more compliant than younger women. Older women are less docile because they have learned from experience. They are more confident and more forthright about the conclusions they have drawn from decades of experience. Critically, mature women no longer need to rely on the support of men. They feel under less pressure to provide the sex that men need.

Women present a particular educational challenge because they are not as curious as men about sexual phenomena. Women often do not realize that they are ignorant of the details of sexual response. They carefully avoid any sexual content, fictional or otherwise. Women rarely engage in any type of informed sexual discussion. They assume that their romantic and emotional interpretations of sex can substitute for knowledge of how sexual arousal and orgasm are actually achieved.

Most people feel that it is inappropriate to discuss sexual matters in front of children and adolescents. Shame focuses on the fantasies that men weave around female sexuality. Similarly, sex educators often provide medical and biological data, but carefully avoid talking about sexual pleasure. Women are often offended by references to sexual pleasure because sexual activity tends to focus on male gratification.

Sexuality is shaped by culture and history. For example, a hundred years ago, a woman who loved sex could be considered mentally ill, whereas today, if you don’t love sex, you could end up being diagnosed as dysfunctional. (Bella Ellwood-Clayton 2013)