If you are trying to win your ex back, a second chance date with your ex would be like a dream come true for you. Admit it, you’ve been waiting for it for a long time. Ironically, for most spurned lovers, a second date is often the last nail in the coffin of any hope of reuniting with their exes.

Caught up in their own emotional pain caused by the end of the relationship, they put so much pressure on themselves that they are becoming their own worst enemy in the quest to win back the hearts of their exes.

Let’s play a little game and suppose you’re going on a second chance date with your ex and I’ll point out all the mistakes you’d probably make.

So what would you do in such a situation? How would you react to it? After all, he has been waiting for this day for weeks or even months, and now he is ready to meet you again.

Rejected lovers are very predictable in this scenario and you would be just like them… making the same mistakes and depriving yourself of any real chance of getting your ex back.

Since this is your second chance date… and maybe your last chance to impress your ex, chances are she’s going to take him out to a fancy restaurant. You want tonight to be special for both of you.

How about a small but tasteful gift? You want to show your ex that you are the one for him, you want to show him how much you truly love him.

Your patience has its limits, especially after a drink or two, and it would only be a matter of time before you can’t control yourself anymore and start convincing your ex that you need to get back together.

Always start with innocent questions like… I’ve been thinking about us a lot lately.. But as same as… Do you ever think of coming back to me?

And finally, the terrible question that you would absolutely not resist asking… Have you started seeing someone else?

You can imagine what would probably happen next: your long-awaited second chance date with your ex would turn into a complete disaster and a third chance date would be pretty hard to come by.

Everything is wrong… and it will never work!

Your ex wanted to enjoy being in your presence again, but you were looking at it as an opportunity to patch things up between the two of you. As innocent as it sounds, you were actually trying to force your ex to change his mind about ending the relationship. You were trying to manipulate them.

You will never get your ex back by acting like this. Love is a subconscious process, it takes place in our subconscious mind. It doesn’t work like our conscious. You cannot reason with him and you cannot force anything on him.

If you try, you will start to resist the idea and it will soon lead to him developing a feeling of resentment towards you. The more you press, the stronger it will become. Once resentment kicks in…your relationship is over. Only time can heal it.

To turn a second chance date with your ex into a real chance to get your ex back, you need to take a different approach. You have to invoke feelings of curiosity, passion, and attraction to yourself again… there’s just no other way.