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How to feel beautiful and confident as a bigger woman

You are a bigger woman, a plus size girl or a size 16. As a youngster, you had the confidence of Lady Gaga. You strutted your stuff down the driveway without thinking about your body size.

When boys or girls call you names, you let them know, very loudly, I might add, that they are stupid by emphasizing the point with a slug or a slap.

What happened?

Why is your confidence shaded?

Where did that daring and beautifully bold girl disappear?

She still exists.

she is inside

It’s just that with all the taunting and insults being thrown at you like rocks she built a wall to protect herself.

How to knock down walls? One stone at a time.

So what do you say we wake her up, get her out of hiding, okay?

Confidence begins with your mind

You need to identify the lies and crush them with the truth.

The nursery rhyme “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is a blatant lie.

Throw it away.

With the first lie crushed, let’s work on the rest.

Louise Hay popularized positive affirmations as a way to reconfigure inner voices or messages that we repeat to ourselves. She used an exercise called Mirror Work with her students. It works by standing in front of a mirror, repeating your affirmations out loud. Help people to heal deeply. Why? She says “It makes you immediately aware of where you are resisting and where you are open and flowing..”

Try saying “I love you (insert your name)” out loud in front of the mirror, slowly, five times and looking directly into your eyes. Uncomfortable, right?

Did you find yourself looking away? crying? Derision?

Crush those lies, remove those stones, little by little the wall falls down.

be wonderfully honest

You must be wonderfully honest with yourself.

Those words thrown at you when you were young hurt, didn’t they?

When your dad called you “Tubby” thinking it was cute, it made you cry on the inside while you laughed on the outside.

When your first love rejected you and topped it off like a cherry on hot fudge sundae by calling you chubby, it hurt so much that you considered suicide.

Forgive those thoughtless words. Forgive those intentional fiery darts meant to hurt your soul. Forgive yourself for believing them.

you define beautiful

Beauty, as they say, is in the eye of the beholder. Nobody defines beauty in the same way. And, believe it or not, the definition is constantly changing.

What does beauty mean to you? Define it, then describe yourself using those prerequisites.

You don’t have to believe it at first.

I caught you, didn’t I?

I know that negative internal dialogue inside that head of yours. Just do the mirror work I mentioned earlier and you’ll start to believe it.

Define beauty for yourself and believe it.

You can feel beautiful and confident as a bigger woman. She begins by removing the stones one by one until the wall behind which your inner child hides disappears. First, she identifies the lies and crushes them with the truth. Second, be beautifully honest with yourself. And finally, he defines what beauty means to you.

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