One of the most common questions clients ask me is “What is the purpose of my life?” or “What am I here to do?” I know that many of you are tormented by this question. Or even if you have a pretty good understanding of what your life purpose is, you probably still need guidance on what steps to take to fulfill it more effectively and abundantly.

In keeping with our theme of Aligning with Your Life Purpose in January, I thought I’d share some simple, practical steps you can take to fulfill your life purpose.

1. Decide what you really want.

A soul is moved by desire. To find out what you’re here to do, take a look at your innermost desires. Ask yourself what do I want? Is that what I really want? What else do I want? The deeper you go into this process, the stronger it will be for you.

Make sure you discern if it’s something you REALLY want, or if it’s something you think you should do, or if someone else wants you to do. I recently helped my client Megan work through this process of deciding what she really wanted.

She had been talking about moving back to her home state of New York to be near her family for quite some time. So when I asked her to write a list of things she really wanted, moving to New York was at the top of her list. As we worked on this goal for her, I kept running into resistance and her reasons why moving to New York would be difficult. For example, for financial reasons, her husband may not be able to get a job and may not like to travel to the city, she may not be able to afford the same size house in New York as she has in Virginia, etc.

It’s normal to have to work with limiting beliefs to get what you want. But this was different. It really seemed like there was no positive solution. He wanted his sister and his mom to move to NY from VA as well, and he felt he had to pay for them too because they couldn’t afford it. She believed that this was the only way for the family to be together because “my other sister will never move from New York.”

I realized that her motivation for everyone to be together came from a sense of responsibility to care for others. I helped her see that she cannot interfere with her sister’s free will not to move from New York. Sometimes what we want is not the same as what others want, so we have to accept their choices and let it go. I finally asked him, “Is this really what you want?” She realized that her answer was “no”.

I asked how that felt. She shared with me that it felt like a great sense of relief. Once she let go of that truly genuine desire to move out of state, she was able to freely work on her other goals of opening a yoga studio and building an extension to her home, without the burden of thinking she should refrain from doing things. nothing new because she might be moving out soon. What a relief!

Are you really authentic to yourself? Or do they stem from obscure motives, such as Megan’s sense of responsibility to care for her family? Make sure you are clear inside.

2. You have no limitations.

I can’t tell you how many times people have told me, “I don’t know what my purpose in life is. I don’t know what I want.” Then, five minutes later, they end up sharing a secret wish they have for a new career, business, or hobby.

It’s probably not that you don’t know what you want. It is more likely that you are imposing limiting beliefs on yourself so that you do not believe that you can do it. He automatically decides, “That can’t be right, that’s not the purpose of my life.”

I recently worked with a client who told me that he was searching for his life purpose. She said that she had always wanted to be a healer, but that she did not know what her life purpose was. As simple as it sounds, I confirmed to her that her life purpose is to be a healer. We worked through all the limiting beliefs that she had. For example, that she was impractical, that she would never make any money doing that, that she was too old, etc.

The only thing keeping you from being a successful healer is the negative beliefs you have about it. She is creating her own reality.

When you think about what you really want, how quickly do you dismiss it as too scary or too impractical? Just for once, try to believe that you can really do this. It’s amazing how fast things will change. I have lived in this house for 9 years not believing that I could ever afford to renovate the basement. Three months ago during the Angelic Business Secrets class I taught, I declared that I was going to set an audacious money goal to create the money to renovate my basement. Now the work is underway!

Change can be so easy when you believe differently, more positively about your life.

3. Set and declare your intentions!

My friend Cynthia reminded me of the importance of setting your intentions when I met with her this past weekend. When she had her baby last year, she only had 6 weeks of paid leave available. She knew that she really needed and wanted to be home with her baby for 3 months. She declared that “everything is going to be alright” and just stopped caring about it, even though a part of her mind thought she was crazy!

He let it go and trusted that the solutions would appear. During the time she was on maternity leave, she was able to sell her car and get a tax refund that provided the income she needed to support herself and her child perfectly.

When it was time to go back to work, she worried about finding a good child care provider she could trust. She set the intention of finding a child care provider that she would trust just like her mother. She discovered a nursery down the street that even has the same name as her mother. The teachers there are like second mothers to her son and she couldn’t be happy with the arrangements.

The key when setting your intention is to let go of the “How”. If you worry and worry about what is going to happen or how you are going to do it, your intellectual nature will begin to worry and freak out. You will do more harm than good!

Set your intention. Declare it to someone else to make it even more powerful. (It helped me publicly declare my intention to renovate the basement to my group of 21 Angelic Business Secrets course participants! It held me accountable!)

Then stay relaxed and open to noticing opportunities as they arise. Do your research. Find what’s out there. Use your intuition and inner guidance to discern when an action should be taken. Go ahead! When it feels good, do it!

4. Set clear and specific goals.

Another reason so many people get stuck wondering what they’re supposed to do with their lives is that they’re too vague about their direction. They have an idea of ​​what they want, or they don’t even think about it because their daily life takes over.

If you want your life to change, you must take the time to be clear and specific about what your goals are. Don’t be afraid of the word “goals”. A goal is a sign along the way that gives you direction. It gives you a roadmap and guidance on what actions to take now to get to that signal.

The clearer and more specific you are, the faster you will reach your goal. This is because your energy will align with it, and your angels will move to help you further because they are clear about your intentions as well. If you are indecisive and insipid, you make it difficult for your angels to help you manifest. They don’t know which way you’re going!

When Richard and I decided to renovate our basement, a contractor came in and gave us an estimate of the cost to finish the walls and ceiling. We had our number. That became the financial goal to work towards and has given us extra motivation and drive to create the money and put it aside. It is easier to manifest money when that money has a purpose. It is more difficult to manifest money just for the money. Decide what you want, get information about the cost, the time involved, and what needs to be done. Write down your plan and get to work with your magical intentions to creatively allow it to happen! Be flexible along the way.

Enjoy creating a magical year in 2013 aligned with your life purpose!